Relationship anxiety?
Been there, done that.
Hi, I’m Joanne Kim.
I help empathic, conscientious people who forget their own needs while attending to others, those who are called to love but who don’t know how to BE loved.
By the time people reach out, they feel depleted, burned out, resentful, and ashamed that they feel this way.
They are EXHAUSTED by anxiety, guilt, shame, and an allergic reaction to anger.
“I’m not good enough” and “What’s wrong with me?” are too familiar.
Often told that they’re “too emotional” or “too sensitive”, they try their best to stuff their emotions, only to have them leak out or explode, “proving” that they’re “too much.”
They feel guilty for not being better and “should” themselves.
They feel like they’re selfish for wanting a break or comfort.
Sound familiar?
Let’s create connections where you feel fulfilled!
You’re in the right place if…
You end up in hurtful relationships,
but you just want to be loved.
You're sick of fighting because you feel
rejected or misunderstood.
Your emotions are jumbled up with others’, and they feel overwhelming.
You feel stuck, hurt, and alone.
How does therapy work?
A head’s up - I’m NOT the typical talk therapist. I’m NOT interested in you sitting on the couch with me for years. I want you to jump all in, do the hard work, heal well, and get on with living your full life. (It’s about damn time you took care of your needs and dreams, too!)
Instead of putting out fires, I want to find out and deal with what’s causing them in the first place.
Once all the dust has settled, we’ll get to repairing what’s broken and then even dream about all you WANT to see happen in your life.
Then we’ll get to planning and building so that you can actually ENJOY what you’ve created!
Therapy involves:
Weekly, 50-minute sessions for 40ish weeks so we build and work off of good momentum
Using the Enneagram to discover your patterns of thinking, feeling, and doing that create those painful and rigid “knots” in your life and relationships
Using Brainspotting to massage out more stubborn, trauma-based “knots” that you can’t just work out by yourself
Making incremental but lasting changes to how you live and create new “muscle memory”
Finding RELIEF and gaining access to your whole being so you can LIVE and LOVE WELL in ways both you and your loved ones need
By the end of therapy, you will…
Work WITH your emotions.
Know your self-worth.
Advocate for your needs without “I’m sorry.”
Use boundaries to protect what matters to you.
Make your relationships more mutually beneficial.
Live in self-control, not others-control or -controlled.
Learn to enjoy life and rest without guilt.
Ah!!! Where do I begin?
That’s easy.
Book your free 15-min consult call for virtual counseling today!
Who will help you?
I am a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist (LMFT #110804) and a Certified Brainspotting Practitioner who focuses on difficult emotions, painful relationships, anxiety, depression, self-esteem, and trauma/abuse.
I am located in the Silicon Valley (San Jose, CA) and provide online therapy for those in California.
Build thriving relationships with others and yourself using the Enneagram and Brainspotting.
Special welcome to:
LGBTQ persons
Healers, empaths, and creatives
